Understanding the Odds-Second Opinion Appointment

Things have been a little crazy in the Goss house.  We had our appointment with another doctor (Dr. G.) for a second opinion right after finding out that my mom has been diagnosed with B cell non-Hodgkin's lymphoma.  She has already begun her chemo treatments which is making it harder for her to keep up with some of the day to day tasks leaving us to try and help fill in the blanks. 

Our second opinion appointment went well.  I really liked the office-I was taken back immediately and it was so quiet!  My other doctor's office (Dr. B.) is always loud and bustling.  It was very refreshing to visit an office without 18 pregnant women in the waiting room with another 20 babies and/or toddlers running around.  (Yes, you are sensing some of my bitterness which isn't a proud moment.  However, sitting your infertility patients to wait for their appointment for 2 hours next to babies and pregnant women is a cruel form of punishment.)

Dr. G. was very straight forward. Basically we have three options:

1.) Continue with clomid and IUI-success rate of 8%-cost $500 including medication
2.) Begin injectable hormones with IUI-success rate of 15%-cost $1,500 plus medication around $1,000
3.) Begin IVF-success rate of 45%-cost $9,000-$11,000 plus $2-3,000 in medications

On our own we only have a 1-2% chance of getting pregnant...

She kept warning that option 2 with the injectable hormones is risky.  It isn't monitored as closely and therefore twins occur 25% of the time and triplets 1%.  She also said this method can cause a fluid build up which lands you in the hospital. 

We personally ruled out IVF a long time ago-it just isn't for us.  The way she was describing option 2 it was something that both of us said we wanted to avoid.  So we are left with trying two more clomid & IUI cycles or moving on to adoption.  Currently we are taking a break from everything.  They always say that stress is such a big factor in infertility and right now I am under a huge amount of stress.  Our plans are to keep discussing our options and if we choose two more IUI to complete them by the end of the year.  Our three attempts per lifetime of IUI that were covered by insurance have already been used but some of the ultrasounds should be covered and since we already met our deductible I would like to have all procedures by the end of the year.

I am so emotionally torn.  Currently I am leaning more toward moving on with adoption.  I realize that IUI is simple in comparison to IVF and other options, however, it is still stressful.  Long before we were trying to conceive I would say that I thought adoption might be the right choice for us.  I can't understand bringing a baby into the world when there are other ones without homes.  I think God knew all along what was best, and was preparing me for what was to come. 

Your continued thoughts and prayers are always appreciated.  I would love to hear from you.  Remember:  You are not alone.  There is NO shame in your story.  And sometimes, just letting it out makes you feel so much better.

~HUGS~

Third Time..Not a Charm

 

 

 

Last week Thursday came and proved that our third round of IUI was unsuccessful.  I've spoken with my doctor who recommended a specialist who, of course, doesn't have an opening until June 4th.  In reality it is a little more than a month away and I should be happy...but I'm ready for the roller coaster to end.

 

I can't even begin to describe the emotional waves that roll through me.  I feel terrible for Kevin having to deal with my forms of crazy.  Sometimes I feel like I am making progress toward the acceptance that this could be our future.   A future without children of our own, without in-laws and grandchildren and the list keeps going.  I see the big family Christmas dinner dwindle in my mind.  Instead I focus on how to turn this into God's glory and accept what he has planned. 

 

Sometimes I can really focus on God has other plans for us.  Plans that could include foster children or adoption ...or to something that we haven't even thought of.  I truly believe that God cares for us and has a plan but there are moments where I really struggle.  How can my sister, a drug addict, who isn't trying, smokes, drinks and barely eats get pregnant?  Don't let my honest questions sway you.  Those two girls are my life and I wouldn't trade them for anything!  But you've all know the teenage girl who got pregnant after only one time and the woman who forgot her birth control and - BAM!  No such luck here folks.

 

While I may not always have my crazy under control at home I typically feel like I can hide it pretty well while I'm out.  A few weekends ago we went to a local antique store that we frequently visit.  They know us there and we hadn't seen the owner's daughter in a while (she is usually around helping).  I walked through the door greeted by excited voices telling me to "Come see!" that she in fact hadn't simply gained a lot of weight over the winter-she was pregnant.  She is a beautiful person inside and out and yet I struggled every minute of that conversation.  The soon to be mother and grandmother gushed about this and that while I had to constantly remind myself to smile.  Usually when this type of thing happens I feel longing for what they have- and as wrong as it may be- I covet it.  But this time I felt bitter.  Longing took the back seat and bitterness was front and center.  When we got in the car and I was explaining it to Kev he began his lecture on how you "simply can't be like that".  I know that, trust me, I do.  But a glimpse into my heart was ugly and I've been striving lately to right it.

 

Part of going to another doctor was picking up a copy of my file to send to the new doctor.  My doctor is in the process of changes offices so their fax machine isn't set up.  I had to pick up my files and fax them myself.  While I had been complaining about yet another errand to run it did give my the opportunity to view all the doctor's notes.  Kev's results are in there as well.  When the doctors had explained Kev's condition to us they were vague.  I thought it made sense and that I had a grasp, but after reviewing the file (I googled what some numbers should be) I found that I really hadn't understood.  The numbers are listed as "severely compromised" even for IVF.  That was quite an eye opener. 

 

I remind myself each day that this life is temporary and God has me here for a reason.  My suffering can bring him glory and that should be my goal.  I am reminded to count the blessing he has given me and not take them for granted.

 

Working on my bitter heart,

~Kel

 

 

 



Distressed Finish Using Vaseline

After reading several methods for painting with a distressed finish I decided to try a few pieces using the Vaseline technique.  Here is how I painted my pieces.

1.) Paint your base color.  Let dry.
2.) Lightly put vaseline where you want the paint to be distressed.
3.) Paint your top color-painting right over the vaseline areas.  Let dry completely.
4.) Lightly sand the areas where the vaseline is.

Here is what my finished products looked like...

Country Christmas

Christmas is one of my favorite times of the year.  I love the music, smells..decorations...everything!  While Christmas is behind us I was looking at some pictures on my phone and thought I would share a few!

What is a country Christmas without your tree in a galvanized tub?

I added the burlap-like ribbon to our tree this year <3

Antique Medicine Cabinet Redo

Hunted from my parents basement of 'extras' came this antique medicine cabinet.  Unfortunately, I forgot to take a before picture.  It was white, which cracks and peeling paint. 

 

After a LOT of sanding and filling in some of the gaps this is what we had..

 

I made my own chalk paint using:

1C Flat Paint

1 Tbs Unsanded Grout

Mix well.

 

I put two coats of the chalk paint on and let it dry.  Since it was a nice day outside, I only let it dry for a few hours ( I was ready to try the next step!).  I used medium grit sandpaper and sanded through some areas.  Be random~ take some down to the wood, other spots just ruff up the paint.  The cabinet got a good wipe down and it was ready for the final step.

 

 

I put stain ( I prefer Minwax) over the entire surface.  Let it sit for a few minutes and wipe off the excess.  This allows the stain to cover the paint and seep into the parts where the wood is showing. It took several days for the finish to dry completely. 

 

I used the same technique on an antique armoire for my Mom (below).

 

 



Reupholster a Chair with a Dropcloth

It's all over Pinterest- How to Reupholster a char.  For years this green chair sat on my grandparents enclosed porch, then it moved to my parents basement, then to our house.  The chair is super comfortable and sturdy, but the fabric was awful.  Fixable, right? Right! Using a painters drop cloth I reupholstered the char and I love the way it turned out!

Before: 

 

 I didn't go as far as to replace the horse hair and padding.  I simply added new batting like material over the existing "cushion" and drop cloth over that.  Always wash and dry your drop cloth before using it.  I bought this particular drop cloth at Big Lots for around $15.  It did have a seam, which poses a problem for some of my other projects, but since it was getting cut up into sections it worked great for the chair.

 

This chair had already been reupholstered before.  My grandparents owned an apple orchard, so when I found this fabric under the ugly green fabric it really made my day.  It appears to be someone in a basket picking apples.

 

The back of the chair has curves as you can see.  I purchased a product called "Curve Ease" which made the upholstering a lot easier.  I used this on the arms as well since they are half fabric half wood.

 

After:

 

Thanks for stopping by!  I would love to hear your comments and feedback!

House Renovations

Our biggest DIY project...

When we purchased our house in 2008 it was a dump!  The house had been vacant for 15 years and needed to be completely renovated.  Thankfully, I come from a family of carpenters.  Here are the links to some of the before and after shots of our house if you want to know how we went from this

to this

 

House Renovations Part 1, House Renovations Part 2, House Renovation Part 3

 

I am forever changing our furniture and decor. Be sure to check back often to see more DIY projects!

 

~ Kelly